7 years ago, I learned I was going to have a son. My immediate feeling was fear.
Not because I did not want a son. But because I knew I had to teach him more than just being a man.
What was I going to do with a boy? Fortunately, I had a great partner, his mother, who is smart and full of insights. I know more than just a little bit about being a black male in these United States, but what about my son? What would I have to offer? My fears? Quite frankly, I’m still afraid for my son. The best j can do, is to continue educating him, protect him, cherish him and warn him to always remain unprovoked, to put his ego aside when dealing with Coos. Because, HE IS BLACK. HE WILL NOT BE A STATISTIC
We are over exposed and under developed. Thanks to social media and the internet everything is so much more accessible. We fall in love with portrayals of other people’s lives and fail to invest our time with those that truly matter. We forget that relationships are a means of personal enrichment and development. Instead we make comparisons and fall into traps on envy. Young girls start what should be the best years of their lives insecure. And women tear each other down. Men use pride as a bandaid to cover their scars. We lose our humility and trade our joy with fleeting superficial moments. If there was an X-ray that showed a relative portrayal of the lives we are so quick to show off, would it be accurate? A lot of us don’t think we struggle with jealousy or envy. But it’s not in the moments of strength that we battle these things, it’s in the shadows of vulnerability. In the words of Colleen Rouse “You make an inferior imitation but you make a superior original. Why don’t you just be you?” :) #itsajourney #joyisachoice
Anonymous said: Hey! I'm curious to know what products you use for your hair. are you mixed race btw? because that might be the explanation for the texture of your hair... I have natural hair right now but i would like to use something to make it look more like your black and white picture with the caption "cheese." thanks!
Hi there, I’m not sure what I used on that particular day and I don’t have a specific regimen because I like to try different products. In fact I’m still trying to figure out what works for my hair. It doesn’t retain moisture very well. Buuuut. I may have an answer for you. I think that for the “wet look” I did: rose water and aloe (i put it in a spray bottle) I found that this helped to retain moisture in my curls and keep them defined, almost like a natural leave in conditioner. I would have also used an oil based mixture such as shea butter x jojoba oil x coconut oil. Coconut oil and shea butter make me break out so be careful with it, a little goes a long way. All the best and just remember to have fun with it!
Benefits of rose water and aloe for hair: can) http://healthtipsforwomenhealth.wordpress.com/2013/12/04/rose-water-for-hair-care/
theafricannomad said: waiting for you to make some 2014 posts to danasparadigmshift ^_^
Wow just seeing this. It feels great to know that you enjoy my work. I’ll update it soon so keep an eye out :) thank you!
"Can you understand? Someone, somewhere, can you understand me a little, love me a little? For all my despair, for all my ideals, for all that - I love life. But it is hard, and I have so much - so very much to learn."
Sylvia Plath, The Journals of Sylvia Plath (via observando)